Attila the Hun

If any of you would like some info on Attila the Hun, I am a PRO! Until last night I wasn't even sure who this was. Jayson had to tell me that he was a character in Night at the Museum...oh...THAT Attila the Hun...DUH! (the Chinese lookin dude, that's mean). Attila was the fierce 5th century leader of the barbarian group known as the Huns who struck fear in the hearts of the Romans as he plundered everything in his path, invaded the Eastern Empire and then crossed the Rhine into Gaul. He was the most feared King of the Huns. Some say that he was a God, others called him the Scourge of God. He died by drinking too much. Attila passed out flat on his back. It was then and there that Attila had a massive nosebleed which caused him to choke on his own blood, on his wedding night!
Joslynn is FAILING, yes BIG FAT F...in 4 CLASSES! How do you fail 4 of your 5 classes? It has been an ongoing struggle with us. In fact, Jayson and I fight over this problem most. Last Sunday was the big one. Yes people, I told him I was done! I had a BAD cold, I was tired, my body ached, Ashton and Addy just wanted to be loved, and we were fighting. Fighting about Joslynns grades. She didn't care...she was in her room. So why were we in such a big fight over her grades if she doesn't care?
I spent the night on the couch (I actually love sleeping on the couch), and didn't sleep AT ALL. Between the cold, and wanting to beat Jayson in his sleep, I just stayed up all night trying to figure this out in my head.
Monday was ROUGH, but thanks to my dear friend, she talked me through it. She made me realize that I need to let Jayson handle Joslynn. As much as I love her and do not want her to fail, Jayson needs to take care of it. I have to step back, and let Jos make her own choices.
*She is currently grounded from her IPod, cell phone, TV, Computer, "going out," home phone, and pretty much anything else you can think of, and she doesn't even care!*
I came home Monday, hashed it out with Jayson and then informed both Jayson and Joslynn that I loved them both very much, but mentally I can not be evil step-mom, or the only one who takes care of Joslynn anymore. I told both of them to talk between each other to figure out shit, that It was no longer my problem!
so....a week went buy, and I said nothing...one whole week! You have to realize what this means for me to shut up for a week! Yesterday was parent teacher conf. Ashton and Addy went to the sitter, and Joslynn GOT to come to work with me so she could sit in the back office ALL day and do supervised homework. On the way to work, I was compelled to stop in at MC for parent-teach conf (shocked the holy hell out of Jos). I AM SO GLAD WE WENT! Her teachers were nice enough to go to the classrooms and get all of her missing assignments. I wasn't upset, I didn't really even say anything. She got in the car and started to cry. She told me how sorry she was, and that she knew she could do better.
5 hours later, and a gazillion assignments later, we started to work on the report due..TODAY! Why would you NOT wait until the last minute to do a report that needs 6 sources? Hence, Attila the Hun.
At 1:30 am we finished...Jos and I...learning, writing, and discussing Attila the Hun. What did I get - a big HUG, and a "thanks for saving my butt!" I didn't even get mad last night. It was good. We connected. She asked. She was thankful. Jayson was thankful. I was tired. And today my friends, is a new day!
Maybe I'm a little "Attila." To some I am a God, to others they fear me. Oh, how I wish people thought I was a God.